{"id":5740,"date":"2021-12-15T17:39:57","date_gmt":"2021-12-15T22:39:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rcourihay.com\/?p=5740"},"modified":"2026-03-13T17:20:55","modified_gmt":"2026-03-13T17:20:55","slug":"hope-for-depression-research-foundation-huffpost","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rcourihay.com\/staging\/blog\/hope-for-depression-research-foundation-huffpost\/","title":{"rendered":"Hope For Depression Research Foundation | Huffpost"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3 style=\"text-align: left;\">10 Realistic Ways To Set Boundaries With Others During The Holidays<\/h3>\n<p>Give yourself the gift of &#8220;no&#8221; this year. Your mental health will thank you for it.By Sydni EllisThe original press appeared on Huffpost on December 14, 2021. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/set-boundaries-others-holiday_l_61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Click here<\/a> to view.\u00a0\t\t<\/p>\n<style>\/*! elementor - v3.16.0 - 14-09-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" src=\"https:\/\/rcourihay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/Screen-Shot-2021-12-15-at-5.13.23-PM-300x199-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Setting boundaries during the holiday season is crucial in curbing stress.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Don\u2019t want to make homemade apple pie? Bring a frozen one. Can\u2019t afford the employee gift exchange? Politely opt out. Not willing to spend the night at a relative\u2019s house? Book a hotel stay instead.<\/p>\n<p>The holiday season can be stressful with baking, shopping and a million other things cluttering our to-do lists. Not to mention, holiday parties are often hotbeds for intrusive personal questions, invasive comments on your appearance and heated discussions about current events. (Is reading this making your heart race? Because same.)<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s no wonder a study done by the National Alliance of Mental Health found that\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.nami.org\/Press-Media\/Press-Releases\/2014\/Mental-health-and-the-holiday-blues\" data-vars-item-name=\"64% of people with mental illness report holidays make their conditions worse\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.nami.org\/Press-Media\/Press-Releases\/2014\/Mental-health-and-the-holiday-blues\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"0\">64% of people with mental illness report holidays make their conditions worse<\/a>. A 2021 study by telehealth provider Sesame found that\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/sesamecare.com\/blog\/lowering-holiday-stress-2021\" rel=\"nofollow\" data-vars-item-name=\"3 in 5 Americans feel their mental health is negatively impacted by the holidays\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/sesamecare.com\/blog\/lowering-holiday-stress-2021\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"1\">3 in 5 Americans feel their mental health is negatively impacted by the holidays<\/a>, with 60% reporting an increase in anxiety and 52% feeing an increase in depression compared to the 2020 holiday season.<\/p>\n<p>So, what can you do to make the holiday season more holly jolly and less mentally draining? Set boundaries.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cSetting boundaries during the holiday season, especially with family members and other people who are close to you, is a radical act of self-care to be celebrated,\u201d said\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cobbpsychotherapy.com\/team#images-gallery-03246de1-504e-4f83-8ffe-ecc2ac7dffe5-25\" data-vars-item-name=\"Sarah Kaufman\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.cobbpsychotherapy.com\/team#images-gallery-03246de1-504e-4f83-8ffe-ecc2ac7dffe5-25\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"2\">Sarah Kaufman<\/a>, a therapist at\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.cobbpsychotherapy.com\/index\" data-vars-item-name=\"Cobb Psychotherapy\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.cobbpsychotherapy.com\/index\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"3\">Cobb Psychotherapy<\/a>\u00a0in Brooklyn Heights, New York. \u201cIt\u2019s a way to honor your values, financial situation, and mental health. It\u2019s not only a nice thing to do for yourself, but in some cases, it is essential for your overall well-being.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Rachel Hoffman, a licensed clinical social worker and chief therapy officer\u00a0at\u00a0Real,\u00a0said boundaries are especially important this year, \u201cas we\u2019re living through an ongoing pandemic, witnessing a tremendous amount of destruction, and experiencing collective grief.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Think of it this way: Your mental health can\u2019t afford\u00a0<em>not\u00a0<\/em>to have boundaries. HuffPost spoke with therapists to get expert tips on setting and maintaining boundaries this holiday season. Here\u2019s what to do:<\/p>\n<p><strong style=\"color: #0a0a0a; font-family: Montserrat; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 0px;\">1. Decide on your boundaries in advance.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>First, decide what your boundaries will be.\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.drliradelarosa.com\/our-team\" data-vars-item-name=\"Ernesto Lira de la Rosa\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.drliradelarosa.com\/our-team\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"6\">Ernesto Lira de la Rosa<\/a>, a\u00a0psychologist and media advisor for the\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.hopefordepression.org\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Hope for Depression Research Foundation,\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.hopefordepression.org\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"7\">Hope for Depression Research Foundation,<\/a>\u00a0suggested asking yourself:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What\u00a0things are important for me to do during this holiday season?<\/li>\n<li>How do I want to feel after the holidays are over?<\/li>\n<li>Do I need some time for myself during the holiday season?<\/li>\n<li>What will help me feel happy during the holiday season?<\/li>\n<li>Am I saying yes to a lot of things because I feel guilty?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u201cThis is a process, and it may take us some time to determine what boundaries we want to set with ourselves and with our loved ones,\u201d Lira de la Rosa said.<\/p>\n<h5><strong style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">\u00a0<\/strong><\/h5>\n<h5><strong style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">2. Don\u2019t feel obligated to travel.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>If you don\u2019t want to travel right now, that\u2019s OK.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cHoliday travel this year is complicated,\u201d Kaufman said. \u201cPerhaps you don\u2019t feel comfortable traveling to see family because it feels uncertain or unsafe. This is an opportunity to set a boundary.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She suggests telling family members, \u201cI don\u2019t feel safe enough to travel. I wish I could see you, and I\u2019m sad that I can\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n<section id=\"entry-body\" data-rapid=\"marko-sec\">\n<section>\n<h5><strong>3. Say \u201cyes\u201d only to the events you truly want to attend.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>\u201cIf we recognize that we tend to overfill our schedule with holiday parties (usually out of the desire to please others), and then feel emotionally exhausted, then maybe the thing we are needing is self-preservation,\u201d said\u00a0Kaitlin Soule, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of \u201c<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Little-Less-Hot-Mess-Evolution\/dp\/1951412419\/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=a%20little%20less%20of%20a%20hot%20mess&amp;qid=1636089581&amp;sr=8-1&amp;tag=thehuffingtop-20&amp;ascsubtag=61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386,-1,-1,d,0,0,hp-fil-am=0\" data-amazon-link=\"true\" data-vars-item-name=\"A Little Less of a Hot Mess.\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Little-Less-Hot-Mess-Evolution\/dp\/1951412419\/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=a%20little%20less%20of%20a%20hot%20mess&amp;qid=1636089581&amp;sr=8-1&amp;tag=thehuffingtop-20&amp;ascsubtag=61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386,-1,-1,d,0,0,hp-fil-am=0\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"9\">A Little Less of a Hot Mess.<\/a>\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThis might look like committing to saying \u2018yes\u2019 to just your top two or three holiday-related events and building in more time to cozy up at home with a good book or a loved one,\u201d she added.<\/p>\n<h5><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/h5>\n<h5><strong>4. Establish your COVID requirements ahead of time.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p><a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/lifestance.com\/our-leadership-team\" data-vars-item-name=\"Anisha Patel-Dunn \" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/lifestance.com\/our-leadership-team\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"10\">Anisha Patel-Dunn\u00a0<\/a>, a practicing psychiatrist and chief medical officer of\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/lifestance.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"LifeStance Health,\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/lifestance.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"11\">LifeStance Health,<\/a> suggested also setting COVID-19 boundaries, especially with people who are unvaccinated.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t want to expand your circle this year, try saying something like \u201cto keep everyone as safe and healthy as possible this season, I\u2019m comfortable hosting our immediate family at home, and will plan to celebrate with friends and neighbors that we typically see this time of the year in different ways.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Try to keep the discussion focused on you and your concerns, Patel-Dunn said.\u00a0For example, you could say, \u201cI would feel uncomfortable hosting you and putting you at risk knowing that you\u2019re unvaccinated,\u201d or \u201cout of respect for everyone attending this year, here are the guidelines \u2015 let me know if you need me to send a list of places to get PCR tested.\u201d<\/p>\n<h5><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/h5>\n<h5><strong>5. Set a budget for gifts that won\u2019t cause you anxiety.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>\u201cIt is common for people to feel particularly stressed about monetary issues around the holiday time,\u201d Hoffman said.<\/p>\n<p>She suggests communicating ahead of time in whatever way feels right for you. \u201cThat might look like texting your friends that you would prefer to set a $20 cap for the gift exchange or simply opting out of that part of the party this year,\u201d Hoffman explained.<\/p>\n<\/section>\n<\/section>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" src=\"https:\/\/rcourihay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/61b0ceb4200000d9f78d46a2.webp\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<h5><strong>6. Excuse yourself from triggering conversations.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>\u201cSome find it very difficult to engage in conversations with those with extreme opposing opinions on matters such as politics, religion, culture or current events,\u201d said\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/pinnacletreatment.com\/about-us\/our-team\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Lori Ryland\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/pinnacletreatment.com\/about-us\/our-team\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"12\">Lori Ryland<\/a>, a\u00a0clinical psychologist and chief clinical officer of\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/pinnacletreatment.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Pinnacle Treatment Centers.\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/pinnacletreatment.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"13\">Pinnacle Treatment Centers.<\/a>\u00a0\u201cRemember that those with strong opinions are very rarely convinced of an opposing view. If your goal is to get through to him\/her and align them with your views, it is unlikely to happen.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Avoid those triggering situations if you can \u2015 sometimes that means not going if you know someone will be there who disrespects you. If not, Ryland recommended saying, \u201cWe will just have to agree to disagree\u201d or \u201cI am here to enjoy family and the holiday, not debate.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>And, if someone is commenting on your weight, body or eating habits, you don\u2019t have to listen. \u201cIf you are on the receiving end of comments like these \u2014 which are rooted in the false belief that we are only good when our bodies are a different shape, size, or weight \u2014 set the boundary that makes you feel most safe,\u201d Kaufman said. \u201cPerhaps you assertively say, \u2018I feel uncomfortable and hurt when I hear your words.\u2019 Or maybe you leave the room.\u201d<\/p>\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h5><strong>7. Set time limits at parties.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>\u201cTime is limited and precious during the holiday season,\u201d said <a style=\"font-size: revert; color: #808080;\" role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/drlaurabokar.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Laura Bokar, \" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/drlaurabokar.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"14\">Laura Bokar,\u00a0<\/a>a licensed marriage and family therapist, chief executive officer\u00a0at\u00a0<a style=\"font-size: revert; color: #808080;\" role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/fvinstitute.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Fox Valley Institute\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/fvinstitute.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"15\">Fox Valley Institute<\/a>\u00a0and author of \u201c<a style=\"font-size: revert; color: #808080;\" role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1736503014?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860&amp;tag=thehuffingtop-20&amp;ascsubtag=61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386,-1,-1,d,0,0,hp-fil-am=0\" data-amazon-link=\"true\" data-vars-item-name=\"We Need to Talk \u2013 24 Simple Insights for Relationships\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/1736503014?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860&amp;tag=thehuffingtop-20&amp;ascsubtag=61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386,-1,-1,d,0,0,hp-fil-am=0\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"16\">We Need to Talk \u2013 24 Simple Insights for Relationships<\/a>.\u201d \u201cPlanning will be very important. Set a schedule and let family and friends know ahead of time when and how much time you will be able to spend with them.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>She added that if some are disappointed, remember it\u2019s not your responsibility to take care of those feelings.\u00a0<\/p>\n<h5><strong>8. Set consequences for your boundaries.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p><strong>\u201c<\/strong>Boundaries without a consequence are just a suggestion,\u201d said\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.divyarobin.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Divya Robin\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.divyarobin.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"17\">Divya Robin<\/a>, a\u00a0psychotherapist in New York City.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cLet people know if a boundary of yours is crossed what will happen \u2014 whether that means you will leave the room for a few minutes, get some fresh air, or entirely leave \u2014 as this lets people know you are serious about your boundaries,\u201d Robin explained.<\/p>\n<h5>\u00a0<\/h5>\n<h5><strong>9. Practice self-care throughout the holiday season.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>Amira Johnson, a therapist at\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/bermancenteratl.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Berman Psychotherapy\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/bermancenteratl.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"18\">Berman Psychotherapy<\/a>\u00a0in Atlanta, suggested continuing self-care practices during the holidays. Try bringing your journal with you while traveling or allotting times to meditate throughout the day.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cKeeping yourself grounded and still feeling connected with yourself will keep you from feeling overwhelmed and out of alignment,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n<h5>\u00a0<\/h5>\n<h5><strong>10. Take care of your overall health.<\/strong><\/h5>\n<p>Ronit Levy,\u00a0director of\u00a0<a role=\"link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.buckscountyanxietycenter.com\/\" data-vars-item-name=\"Bucks County Anxiety Center\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"61ae7bdde4b0eb351707a386\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.buckscountyanxietycenter.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"20\">Bucks County Anxiety Center<\/a>\u00a0in Newton, Pennsylvania, said to also focus on sleep and nutrition this holiday season. \u201cWhen your body feels depleted, you\u2019re more likely to be cranky and make decisions that don\u2019t protect your health,\u201d Levy said. \u201cIt\u2019s also harder to think clearly and stay calm.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Levy also recommended taking breaks throughout the day, as \u201coverwhelming your brain and body makes it harder to stick to your boundaries, manage tough feelings, and handle stressful situations.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cFocus on what matters to you and what you want to get out of the holidays,\u201d Levy added. \u201cRemember that the holidays aren\u2019t about pleasing everyone. Focus on the traditions and people that really matter to you as well as the memories you want to create. This will help decrease how much you have on your plate and the resentment that comes from being overwhelmed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Setting boundaries may seem difficult, but they can actually make the holidays more enjoyable. Don\u2019t be afraid to give them a try.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>10 Realistic Ways To Set Boundaries With Others During The Holidays Give yourself the gift of &#8220;no&#8221; this year. 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